About this Blog

This blog is about a life journey that includes learning, growth, love, challenges, creativity, and happiness. Really isn’t much different from pre-stroke.

There is no established route to stroke recovery. Every road is filled with twists, turns, & detours.

EXCEPT the roads to this life are now wrought with unbelievable obstacles, sinkholes not potholes, constant detours, daily flat tires, and tons of backtracking.

Ok – maybe the journey is more than just a tad bit different.

This blog is about:

  • Regaining control over a life destroyed by a cataclysmic event – a massive stroke
  • Rebirth – The stroke was earth-shattering and destroyed 90% of who I thought I was
  • Discovering who I can be by redefining who I am, while learning to live with and adjusting to the many deficits the Damn Stroke gave me
  • Being extremely Proactive, stroke recovery is a self-service affair
  • Perseverance
  • Hope & Belief

Bottom line, this blog is about finding and using the resources necessary to overcome our obstacles and create a life worth living.

For those of you who were looking for the typical about page info; here you go

About Me

  • In a split second on October 7, 2012, my entire world was turned upside down and inside out. I had a massive thalamic hemorrhagic stroke – right side of brain, left side deficits.
  • I’m wheelchair bound; I have something hanging from my left shoulder that kind of resembles an arm; and I have Central Pain Syndrome.
  • I was 46 then, I’m 49 now.
  • People you’ll most likely hear about often:

  • World's greatest black lab - Bones! Danny(21) & Tommy(17) – my amazing boys
  • Freddy – my big-hearted significant other of 12 years
  • Barry – my wonderful brother in Seattle
  • Randi – my awesome sister
  • Ryan – my great brother-in-law
  • Neave (10) & Maclaine (6) – my adorable nieces
  • Patty & Louie – my unbelievably incredible neighbors
  • Bones – The World’s Greatest Black Lab
  • Rascal, Gypsy, and Sammy – my 3 cats

  • Survivor is my middle name.  I developed a pretty matter of fact approach to life’s obstacles at a very young age.  My typical coping method (after I meltdown, of course):

This is where I am.

This is what I have.

What are my options – What can I do next to move forward?

I have to admit that the magnitude of this Damn Stroke has been greater than I could have ever imagined in my most horrific nightmares.  Being proactive is a daily (well, hourly) challenge.  It’s way easier to be completely reactive; stuck in doom and gloom.

  • Oh, I almost forgot – I tend to ramble – sorry.

Why I’m Blogging

1.  It gives me a place to store and share the information I discover and use to create a new life.

2.  I love to learn. The stroke totally slowed me down. It took away my ability and even desire to learn new things.  Creating this blog has sparked my desire and is enough of a challenge to satisfy me without causing too much frustration.

3.  It’s hard to remember successes sometimes. This record of all the challenges that I have and will overcome will be motivational on the days when I feel like all I do is attempt to swim upstream, never advancing.

4.  After the medical community keeps you alive and barely gets you functioning, they throw you into the middle of the ocean, alone without a life jacket.  Reading stroke survivor blogs has helped me deal with and learn about stroke. They are one of the many resources that kept me afloat!

With every person and stroke being different, I don’t think there can ever be too many stroke blogs.   Each person’s approach, experiences, and outlook is different.  I have taken something away from each post I’ve read.

It is my hope that my dead-ends and wrong turns as well as my successfully navigated detours will help you feel more understood, less alone and maybe just slightly motivated to continue on your journey with hope for a better tomorrow. 


I want to help you stay afloat.

  Keeping your head above water after a stroke requires a ton of support!

Your Turn

Now that you know a bit about me, it’s your turn.

Let’s get to know each other.  Say hello and tell me something about yourself.



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5 Responses to About

  1. Michael Micka July 27, 2015 at 10:11 pm #

    2011, waking to the Stroke, wasn’t nice …., its taken a while but I don’t really mind the journey. I have changed heaps and definitely enjoy this World, so many ‘little’ enjoyments I never had the time to discover before.
    Anyway, I was not supposed to be here medically, my wife refused to approve the final ‘recommendation’. I’m a tad stubborn which they didn’t account for.
    This is set-up really well, came across it by accident, ok to link it to my Stroke & Stuff page?
    http://www.facebook.com/StrokeandStuff Like I have explained, it’s not about $it’s to encourage Awareness, unlike Oversea’s we don’t have much support publicly.

    • Leslie July 28, 2015 at 10:53 am #

      Thanks for your kind words. I’m glad you found it and appear just as stubborn as me!

      Absolutely Michael, share away. I’m a firm believer that the more we all share about our strokes, the better chance of a survivor finding just what they are looking for, or need to hear.

      There is no one size fits all in stroke recovery. Our strokes and experiences with recovery are so vastly different. Different approaches to recovery appeal to different people.

      The more resources the better.

      It’s ironic I just found your Facebook page last night and here you are commenting on my site. I love the name. I look forward to following your page.

    • A dhew August 21, 2017 at 4:11 am #

      im adhew from indonesia…. i’vstroke attack 18 month ago
      i’ve passed day by day with half body( my left side of body were not function since i/ve had attack…day by day passed away with hope that someday i’ll reborn as usually…
      i’ve tired to tried and tried,,, but my hope not giving me some give up…. and im not ever give up!!
      ihave to win and knocking out that stroke out of my body, thats all my hope n im so happy to found this blog and send out my pan and hurting mind….
      wih God will bless us n making our live happier than before….

  2. LarryP January 21, 2018 at 4:23 pm #

    Hi Leslie

    Thank you for creating this site — while brief, it captures some of the more important advice for caregivers I’ve seen anywhere. I’m the caregiver for my wife who had a massive thalamic left side stroke nearly one year ago — she was 48. Her recovery is going well but there’s still a long road ahead. Let’s keep in touch as I plan to start a blog shortly especially for male caregivers to help with issues that just aren’t discussed anywhere.
    — Larry

    • Leslie January 22, 2018 at 10:44 am #

      I’m sorry to hear about your wife’s stroke but super excited to hear about your future blog. It is more than needed needed! The world of stroke recovery is all encompassing leaving little time available for sharing our experiences. Yet, sharing our experiences is so helpful to others. Doctors don’t really understand. Therapists don’t either.

      Strokes are so much different than other illnesses, diseases, and injuries. Sometimes it’s hard to relate to survivors if the stroke occurred on the opposite side of the brain. The more voices sharing their stories, the better!

      Caregiver’s have even fewer resources and much less time. If you end up using the WordPress platform, I’d be happy to help anyway I can.

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A hemorrhagic stroke occurs when a blood vessel in the brain breaks and leaks blood into the brain.  AKA: a Bleed